The Golden Girls are still golden 23 years later

YOU have a voice in your doctors' appointments. YOU are the customer; YOU are the client!

YOU have a voice; use it!

Have we come any closer to patient-centered care since the early ’90s, you know the kind of care with compassion and the desire to heal, rather than the impulse to pick up the prescription pad or use a scalpel as a first-line treatment?

Obviously, every doctor in every corner of the world is not the kind we see in the below video. It is my opinion that what is important and most damaging about our current medical establishment/SICKcare system is that it seems designed to incentivize medical personnel at every level to start with a treatment, prescription, surgery, or device in mind, and then back the patient into a diagnosis that supports that pre-formed treatment (usually drugs, devices or surgeries).

Why would medical personnel behave in this manner?

My answer: because it’s the most profitable way to provide “healthcare.” If a patient presents with an enigmatic ailment, they are often marginalized or dismissed like we see in this video, courtesy of YouTube:

Polypropylene mesh is certainly enigmatic and devilishly ill-behaved inside the human body to say the least. Much more conservative options are available especially for Stage I SUI or POP. It seems our healthcare system is not designed to start with the person inside the patient, and to offer medical aid by first SEEKING TO UNDERSTAND (listening with compassion), then using REASON plus EDUCATION, unclouded by the whisper of profitable prescription-writing and surgical treatments. Prescriptions and surgeries require more frequent patient visits, check-ups, pre- and post-operative appointments or follow up care, and thus more co-pays and more profit. The healthcare system, in all its forms, is a business that must be profitable to stay solvent, but NEVER at the expense of patient outcomes, best treatment plans or prognoses for continued health, not continued illness.

My opinion is that a profit motive is necessary to keep the best doctors incentivized to make the necessary sacrifices to acquire the expensive and years-long process of learning that their craft requires, many necessary sacrifices exist along the path to becoming a physician. But, these requirements must always accompany a very high standard of morals and ethics. Ethics are what turn unenlightened medical personnel into compassionate healers with gifted minds, gifted hands, and gifted hearts.

A 12th century written manuscript of the oath.

A 12th century written manuscript of the oath.

The HIPPOCRATIC OATH, even with all its controversy, remains one of the oldest binding documents. No one forces any doctor to agree to it. Each one has his/her own choice. But, any currently practicing physician did agree; so each must, by moral imperative, uphold it.

AGAIN, HEAR ME LOUD AND CLEAR: I DO NOT HATE DOCTORS, NOR DO I THINK THE ABOVE CLIP IS REPRESENTATIVE OF ALL DOCTORS, but is representative of too many, and ONE is too many.

Photo courtesy of IMDB

Photo courtesy of IMDB

What I can share with you is my own experience, artistically and masterfully elucidated by the decorated Golden Girls star, Bea Arthur (1922-2009). This Golden Girls clip is quite representative of many experiences I’ve had along Recovery Road with my mother, including a similar interaction with one doctor in particular, inside a Walgreen’s.

BOTTOM LINE:

You are a human being FIRST;

A sick patient SECOND;

A revenue-producing agent. . . . A VERY distant third, if it even belongs in the top three.

Thank you Mesh Angel Dany!

Thank you Mesh Angel Dany!

Thank you to Mesh Angel, Dany, for finding and sharing this clip with me, so I can share it with you all.

The Golden Girls sitcom ended in 1992. Are our doctor-patient relationships any better 23 years later, or are we in the golden years of an antiquated healthcare system on the verge of its last season?

Izzy’s Somewhere Over the Rainbow Remix – FREE DOWNLOAD!

This definitely put a spring in my step this morning! I love music as a healing toy, so I share lots of it using SoundCloud. If you want to see all my playlists, just create an account. Otherwise, enjoy this gem I found!

Where is the FREE PRESS in the WORLDWIDE MESH MESS?

Please find my latest blog for #TMWF supporter Baron | Budd PC in Dallas. Great people, and I’m so grateful that they have given me a louder voice on a larger platform. Grateful for them. This blog is about the recent Mrs. Joan Budke (deceased) v. Ethicon, regarding its Prolift product. Saldy, Mrs. Budke did within approximately nine months of the implant of the device. Johnson and Johnson

Where is the FREE PRESS in the WORLDWIDE MESH MESS?.

An Assembly Line of Turned Heads and Blind Eyes in the Budke Family v. Ethicon Case

Word has come today from the Camden County, MO courtroom that Judge Hass has granted one of two motions filed by Johnson and Johnson on Friday in this case of alleged death by pelvic mesh filed by the remaining members of Mrs. Joan Budke’s family: her husband, three adult children, and grandchildren.

Johnson & Johnson filed a motion for a directed verdict to end the Budke case in their favor, citing a lack of a “preponderance of evidence” which is the legal measure of “proof” that a plaintiff’s attorney must present in a civil case to win. It is analogous to “proof beyond a reasonable doubt” in criminal cases. In this case, Adam Slater and his team were tasked with providing a preponderance of evidence that the Prolift implant was defective in design. Judge Hass denied this motion in yesterday’s proceedings, so the trial will proceed and hopefully make it to the jury.

Mr. Slater had better step up his game. Often times, the judge noted he was confused by the evidence presented and was not following any congruency to the unfolding story about the mesh’s connection to the demise of Mrs. Budke.

Also on Friday, JnJ filed a motion to prevent the jury from being able to award the family punitive damages. Judge Hass upheld this motion, and the jury members will, in fact, not be able to award punitive damages. I’m not sure what the judge’s reasoning on this motion is, other than to say that a similar motion by JnJ in the Linda Gross trial was upheld by the federal MDL judge, the Hon. Judge Goodwin.

Prolift Product in its box.

Prolift Product in its box.

It’s my opinion that it will be difficult for the jury to reach to an informed decision when they are not allowed to know two key facts:

1) JnJ voluntarily removed the Prolift years ago, citing “business reasons.”

2) JnJ has an estimated 30,000 other cases against them, pending in a federal multi-district litigation (MDL), some cases also involving the Prolift.

Through my research and interviews, I’ve learned that JnJ’s Prolift is widely considered in the medical, legal and patient communities to be one of the most injurious mesh products to ever have been on the market. The Prolift has a large amount of mesh when compared with newer “lightweight” meshes, as JnJ now markets new products including the company’s newest mesh product, the Artysan Y-shaped, lightweight mesh. Many urogynecologists have informally told me that such a heavy mesh would never have been indicated in a very mild form (stage 1) of incontinence.

JnJ's Artisyn Y-Shaped Mesh, a lighter weight polypropylene permanent mesh implant.

JnJ’s Artisyn Y-Shaped Mesh, a lighter weight polypropylene permanent mesh implant.

If there were ever a time to donate to the foundation, it would be now.

https://themeshwarriorfoundation.nationbuilder.com/donate

The Mesh Warrior Foundation for the injured sponsored the coverage of this trial in full, since none of the local or national “free press” has considered this case and other mesh cases to be newsworthy.

It takes funding to elevate the worldwide, manmade disaster of pelvic mesh beyond the bounds of our small community. If you are benefitting from this coverage, please consider donating to help TMWF recover the funds of sponsoring a journalist to be present during this trial and others. The financial decisions of a budding non-profit are difficult to make, but we felt you deserved to have a window into this unprecedented trial.

Thank you for your consideration, and any amount at all is greatly appreciated. Your donations make a huge difference as TMWF has little overhead and no paid employees, including yours truly.

I’d rather have $1 each from 1,500 donors than $1,500 from one donor. We all need to be involved. Our medical and judicial systems are not working for the taxpayers and clients who support their industries, and we need to send a loud message in solidarity. #WeWillNotComply. The “cures” for many ailments are proving to be much worse than the original illness. You have a choice not to comply. I will not comply with the tactics of a legal American drug cartel.

You can start with small steps, 1) by donating to this foundation or others who are passionately representing patient-centered healthcare and 2) refusing to comply with doctors who don’t do their homework, don’t listen to your concerns or questions or treat you as a second class citizen who doesn’t have the right to question their “medical opinion.”

#TMWF's Mesh Injury Awareness Bracelet

#TMWF’s Mesh Injury Awareness Bracelet

As always, I do not want to wallow in despair, and I don’t want you to either. There is hope. There are many of us working towards a better future for your family and ours. The #TMWF community showed up and funded the purchase of 5 #TMWF Mesh Injury Awareness Bracelets for the Budke family. We must stick together as a community.

To purchase any #TMWF Awareness items for yourself or loved ones, shop at our YES M.A.M. Market here:

http://www.tmwfoundation.org/yes_mam_market

or simply donate here:

http://themeshwarriorfoundation.nationbuilder.com/donate

David Budke’s story is my story too. . . and the story of many Hundreds of Thousands more sons & daughters

But my mother is still living, if you can call it living, with such profound and life-altering complications and constant severe pain. Still- I know that I can see her tomorrow, if not in the fullness of her spirit, in some traceable way that makes my heart feel its home. In reading David Budke’s story as he offers his testimony that of a family member of the deceased, as close as two people can be really, sharing the same body for 40 weeks and, in this case, sharing life together for 51 years. The last year of David’s relationship with his mother was spent watching her die, slowly, of an entirely preventable cause.

David Budke back left), 51-year-old son of the deceased Joan Budke (front left) in a family picture.

David Budke back left), 51-year-old son of the deceased Joan Budke (front left) in a family picture.

This preventable medical harm we were all told was (and still is) “the gold standard in American medical innovation” is an unprecedented maiming and massacre of our country’s own people, by our country’s legalized drug and drug paraphernalia cartel. If you remember ANYTHING from David’s testimony, it’s my hope you’ll understand this: PP Mesh Implant Injury is a GENERATIONAL, FAMILY INJURY. IT TAKES THE MOTHER AWAY AS THE EPICENTER AROUND WHOM EACH ONE OF US IN THE FAMILY UNIT REVOLVES.

This injury is like stealing the SUN from our SOLAR SYSTEM.

The manufacturers of mesh and the implanting physicians aren’t harming just implanted women in unthinkably and inhumane ways, the manufacturers named in the 100,000 and counting cases are forever damaging the destinies of children, young and grown; grandchildren; sisters; brothers; aunts; uncles; husbands, and I could go on for pages. These manufacturers: Johnson & Johnson, Boston Scientific, AMS, Caldera, Coloplast, Bard, Cook, Endo, Tyco – they are destroying the roots of our families, a generation of American families. This harm will have quantifiable and simply immeasurable, ruinous consequences for years and generations to come.

God bless the Budkes and David Budke, especially, for I’m sure he never thought he’d be giving his lovely mother’s eulogy from the box of a witness stand.

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CLICK TO READ JANE AKRE’S UPDATE FROM TODAY’S PROCEEDINGS

IN JOAN BUDKE (deceased) vs. JnJ/Gynecare/Ethicon and its Prolift Product. 

Dr. Anne Weber – Rock Star Among Urogynecologists on the Stand in Budke v. Ethicon

Dr. Ann Weber, who also testified for the plaintiff, Linda Gross in her successful trial against JnJ.

Dr. Ann Weber, who also testified for the plaintiff, Linda Gross in her successful trial against JnJ.

Click below for the latest news on the Joan Budke (deceased) vs. JnJ and its Prolift product.

http://www.tmwfoundation.org/mesh_research_news_stream

Alligator Skin & a Lion’s Heart

The Mesh Warrior:

If you can give at least $5 to the remaining members of Mrs. Joan Budke’s family, #TMWF would sure appreciate it! We are collecting just enough to send our #TMWF Mesh Awareness to the family so they feel the support, care and love from our community. This is where the rubber meets the road, so to speak. The family picture here lost their mother, life-long companion, grandmother and friend. We MUST make the statement now, while the world watches this trial unfold about Mrs. Budke’s demise. #WeWillNotComply with business as usual in this very, very dangerous, even deadly American healthcare system. #WeWillNotComply!

Originally posted on The Mesh Warrior:

I have often heard this phrase, and it’s something I have tried to grasp, tried to earn, tried to reach out to comprehend and obtain for myself. But then I learned something irreplaceable.

Lion_Heart_by_SchwartzkopfYou can’t earn Alligator Skin, and you can earn a Lion’s Heart.

They are both gifts, given, very personally and specifically to you alone, but you have to choose to accept or refuse these gifts. They don’t seem like gifts when you have survived the most difficult trials of your life thus far. But I learned something after I realized and accepted these two seemingly odd gifts. (They came wrapped separately!) :)

Accepting them means, for me, that the God of this vast Universe has decided to entrust me with more responsibility. This is what I have personally learned as truth for me. Each of us has an achilles heel, myself included. I am now grateful for mine, because it gives me something…

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Alligator Skin & a Lion’s Heart

I have often heard this phrase, and it’s something I have tried to grasp, tried to earn, tried to reach out to comprehend and obtain for myself. But then I learned something irreplaceable.

Lion_Heart_by_SchwartzkopfYou can’t earn Alligator Skin, and you can’t earn a Lion’s Heart.

They are both gifts, given, very personally and specifically to you alone, but you have to choose to accept or refuse these gifts. They don’t seem like gifts when you have survived the most difficult trials of your life thus far. But I learned something after I realized and accepted these two seemingly odd gifts. (They came wrapped separately!) :)

Accepting them means, for me, that the God of this vast Universe has decided to entrust me with more responsibility. This is what I have personally learned as truth for me. Each of us has an achilles heel, myself included. I am now grateful for mine, because it gives me something better than experienced, earned knowledge. My achilles heel has brought wisdom, obedience and a daily remembrance that I am not in control of anything, not even the very next breath of my life. To follow the extremely narrow path that leads to life everlasting is a blessing, but a weighty sense of responsibility as well. And since we are each given our own lives, set apart that each of us will live just once, we are often going it alone, for no one else has been created to be us. You are the only YOU there is, and your job while on earth will not be done if you don’t do it. In fact, the only unique thing you have to offer the world is you.

Some days I do host a grand party, “Pity? Party for one?” and then I remember, my job means that the God of the universe trusts me, and I can again put new paradigms into a larger, grander, multigenerational perspective, and I can walk through it. He told us the road would be narrow. I just never knew how narrow. I am the only Me there is and that is all I have to offer anyone, whether he/she likes the ME or not is not, cannot be of concern to me at all.

No paradigm can be kept intact in coming through an experience of this magnitude, seeing your beloved and beautiful mother TORTURED, yes TORTURED daily, literally being poisoned to death by greed and the love of money, at the hands of others who know full well their deeds; others I believe choose to revel in blissful ignorance and have turned so rotten that they believe rot is good; and goodness is rotten. It’s just business right?

NO.

It’s people.

It’s families.

It’s my mom. It’s my family.

It’s Joan Budke and her family.

Mrs. Joan Budke, a healthy 76-year-old, who died from a J&J Prolift implant and its subsequent infection. After great suffering for a year, she succumbed to life support, leaving a devastated family with the difficult decision of pulling the plug. (Pictured here in the middle with her husband and three grown children.) Her trial is currently in session in Osage Lakes, Camden County Missouri.

Mrs. Joan Budke, a healthy 76-year-old, who died from a J&J Prolift implant and its subsequent infection. After great suffering for a year, she succumbed to life support, leaving a devastated family with the difficult decision of pulling the plug. (Pictured here in the middle with her husband and three grown children.) Her trial is currently in session in Osage Lakes, Camden County Missouri.

It’s a generation of women being sent to slaughter. We treat cattle more humanely when we send them to slaughter.

I am grateful for another gift: adversaries, naysayers and those who revel in chaos, for they too have taught me much: 1) What NOT to do, and how NOT to behave; 2) How to grow a THICK skin; and 3) Just because some, one or even many say hateful, deceitful and just plain wrong things about me does not mean that those statements are true or EVER WILL BE TRUE.

So, Elvis had his blue suede shoes. I think I’m gonna be on the lookout for a pair of shoes, size 9.5, of turquoise alligator skin. That will make it official – an Alligator skin indeed. ALLIGATOR_Green450

God bless you. Keep fighting your own honorable fight and giving your YOU to the world. We need you.

God bless you all, and happy new year! May it be healthier, wealthier and filled will peace and love.

Aaron/TMW